Those Who Fall in Love

As I was browsing the internet for a new article, I came across this poem. It's about love. What does it mean? If you have heard of Romeo and Juliet or some other romance novel then you know the subject matter and characters. But what if we look at love in a different way? Or what if we look at love as an emotion? Here is my take on the concept of love. And where I come from, my family, they believe that love is a deep bond between two individuals. So, let's talk about how it's created, where it's made, how it's developed and how it evolves over time.

 

First off, let me put out there right away that I am not saying this to scare anyone away from dating. This is a valid opinion and I feel that many people do not like being rejected. However, a good reason to do so is because being rejected hurts. You do not get your heart broken by someone who has no idea that they are appreciated by another human being. Although you can learn a lot by knowing someone, but you will not grow a deeper connection with them. Instead, everyone should learn to embrace themselves. To understand why someone does the things that they do. Everyone deserves to be loved unconditionally, even when we do not want to show our true colors.

 

One example of this kind of unconditional love is my relationship with my brother and his girlfriend. She has been hurt the most. The thing that happens is she comes home after working long hours without any rest and he goes, "I have done all he wanted."" At first, I was like, well I guess I thought if you're doing everything....I'm doing then he'll like you too. It took her quite a while to realize her feelings toward him. I wanted to stop but, I could not deny that I had a duty to make sure that these little things would not turn into resentment. Now, it goes back to the story. I have spent plenty of money with my sister to purchase a present for this guy.

 

My mom told me that I am to ask my father's permission to go meet this guy. He is very handsome, very muscular and extremely hard working. My dad said yes. We got to the date, he gave us the address. We met at five o'clock at a restaurant near his house, which turned out to be three miles from hers. After making my girlfriend sign her consent letter, I asked my mother for my purse. She put it under a pillow in the living room. Then, after the food is finished and it's time for dessert, I looked up and saw my dad standing there.

 

My father grinned and asked, You are heading off to college now?" I answered, "yes." Then, he turned around, pulled out the piece of paper and handed it to my dad who read it to me.

 

"You look amazing," he said. He also told me that he would buy another gift for me which I was completely mad about. He gave me a major embrace. They both knew one thing that I did not know. That I had grown closer with my dad.

 

"But, how can I tell him about his past? Is he even my dad?" I asked.

 

"You and him," he said and returned to the love seat and plunked down. Two months passes and I am happy that I got to see my dad.

 

However, I have to point out that he probably has not gotten over this because he hasn't seen his daughter since last spring. It was such a bad break-up that he lost all hope and I think he might never accept me again.

 

Now, let's move onto the concept of unconditional love. How does it happen? Well, unconditional love is a great thing, a solid bond where love does not only include loving the people who fall in love with, but also with all the people you love. When I am in relationships with other people, I tend to overlook one more thing. Let’s say some day their actions or words are just unacceptable and your partner refuses to listen.

 

After a while, your behavior does not bother your partner anymore and they ignore it. All of a sudden, they become upset at you or start accusing you of all sorts of bad deeds. This is called detached forceful conduct. On top of that, you might just decide that your partner is disrespectful or controlling and you need to change their ways (like letting them do certain chores).

 

All of these bad behaviors will eventually lead either to divorce or to break-ups. Most couples eventually stop engaging in those behaviors. But how did love begin? Some people believe it to be an emotional, physical connection between two individuals. Others believe it to be a bond formed through socialization. Still others believe it to be a feeling that is generated from the brain in response to various stimuli. In general, love comes from within each person. Whether or not we understand it.

 

There is a couple of misconceptions about love all over this world. Many people believe that love can only be created through a person, with two persons falling in love, getting married or having children. These types of relationships are a beautiful sight to behold; however, they are not as easy as many people think. Even though they often are, it’s difficult to maintain and sometimes, they may fall apart. However, there is a great reason that we fall in love with people. Why are we attracted to them? One important aspect of love is compatibility. Compatibility means both partners agreeing on their basic wants. With us, we are comfortable with ourselves and our lives. We make our own decisions and we know that our choices are okay. We trust our instincts and we are usually willing to try new things in order to figure out whether our choice is correct. Our personalities are often similar thus, we are able to understand one another better.

 

If we are in a relationship with somebody and our opinions and ideas are not taken seriously then they won't be taken seriously. Neither of the two partners will work to fulfill a mutual agreement. Both will not do the same job. Their interests and needs are different to mine. Therefore, the relationship can be successful if both people are focused on their goals and intentions. Not everybody can fall in love easily because of their differences in personality. Also, in many situations, when there is conflict in the relationship, it is easier to split than to stay. Sometimes both partners must be resolved. Sometimes, the two get to a stage where they reach a point where they cannot resolve the issue. Lastly, the relationship might end early, it might just fizzle out and, finally it might be over.

 

For those who find love with two or more individuals or couples, it's easy to create something wonderful. I've been in multiple relationships since my teen years with my ex and my boss. There's a strong, solid foundation of affection there that allows us to build trust and a stronger partnership, along that with strong communication and understanding.